An ordinary morning…

A year ago today, on a Monday, I woke up at 6:15 — or more accurately, our cats Jonesy and Emmy woke me, requesting breakfast. I fed them and made cappuccinos for Anne and me in our London and Paris cups. Before heading out for work, we talked briefly about dinner plans. Kate was away at Camp Colman, so it was just the two of us. I told Anne I loved her as I walked out the door. It was an ordinary morning.

It was also the last conversation I would ever have with her.

At 3:30 that afternoon, as I was finishing a meeting, I received a call from a number labeled “Medical Services.” It was Harborview telling me Anne had been in a serious accident and had severe head trauma. She was in the emergency room, and they were trying to stabilize her and understand the full extent of her injuries. 

I left work immediately for Harborview and didn’t return home until the following evening. By then, I understood just how grave her condition was — and that the Anne I knew, that we all knew, was likely gone.

Today, on the anniversary of the accident, the memories of those ten days have come back into view, though I’m trying not to dwell on them too much. I’ve had a year to learn how to live with this, yet there are still days when the tears have to flow. I’ll have more to say on August 14, the anniversary of Anne’s passing. For now, I want to convey how much I appreciated the love and support that came so quickly in those first days and over the months that followed. It helped.

A collective hug to everyone who knew her, loved her, and misses her.

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6 responses to “An ordinary morning…”

  1. litleg Avatar
    litleg

    Thank you so much for bringing us into your memories. I feel honored. I was with you that day: The last hours of “before.” It feels like a dream now. I’m glad to be here now too. Sending my love in this valley of the anniversary.

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  2. tenderlydreamland94df964481 Avatar
    tenderlydreamland94df964481

    Thinking of you Brent,  Kate, and Anne, with love. Lynn, Jeff, and KenjiOn Aug 4, 2026,

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  3. computerexuberantb5a4c4c127 Avatar
    computerexuberantb5a4c4c127

    Brent, I anticipated hearing from you with tragic memories of Anne’s fatal accident, be assured she continues to be much missed by everyone at LP. With deepest sympathy, Midge

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  4. ClaudineB Avatar
    ClaudineB

    I’ll be thinking of you and Kate and you navigate this next stretch of days. The Benmar family sends love and misses Anne so much.

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  5. Amy Griffin Avatar
    Amy Griffin

    Hi – thank you for continuing to post how you are doing and your memories of Anne and your family. I’m so sad she’s gone but I do believe she’s with you always.

    Amy Griffin 2nd Grade Teacher Cougar Valley Elementary

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  6. A.J. Benaltabe Avatar
    A.J. Benaltabe

    Hi Brent and Kate,

    Thank you for continuing to share. I think of you both often.

    I have a framed picture in my home office that was made by a parent from Bryant’s 2018 Global Reading Team—the year my class, under Anne’s guidance, won. It reminds me every day of the incredible impact Anne had on so many people. I still find myself asking, “What would Anne do?” or “How would Anne handle this?” She was resilient, optimistic, and always had a can-do attitude. She was a very inspiring person.

    Wishing you both a wonderful year ahead as Kate begins her senior year.

    All the best,

    A.J. Benaltabe

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